A constant in my life is men who say they are OK with being friends but then try to act like my boyfriend or lover. I am very blunt and upfront about it, but have had guys pretended to want to be just friend for months to then shift. I also have guy friends for decades who are like brothers to me.
It puts me in uncomfortable situations. I am out with someone I think is a friend and then suddenly they shift and try to hold my hand or touch me in a way that I do not touch friends. I reject them and then they get upset.
I don’t want to go to the extreme and think I can’t be friends with guys. I have guy friends who prove that wrong. But what do I do when a man lies to me for months and then shifts suddenly?
This happened last night and the guy texted me today asking when we can hang out again. We have mutual friends and live in the same neighborhood so I want the situation to go away as quietly as possible so it isn’t awkward when I see him around.