When dating someone that wasn’t masculine did you find it difficult to step into your femininity?

For example, if you’re with someone who is not a provider or protector. How did you go about not trying to peruse those roles because I feel like it’s a bit difficult to drop the masculine energy because it becomes like a defensive mechanism to protect yourself. I feel like it gets to a point where you, as a woman, start presenting that masculine energy because he’s not being presented in his masculinity.