I have a Valentine challenge to you! Valentines Day is most often associated with the love between to people. I’ve learned recently the importance of self love. So I want to challenge you this Valentines Day to be kind to yourself and show self love. This might mean buying something you’ve had your eye on but didn’t get. Maybe it was too expensive or not practical. Perhaps you didn’t “need” it and felt the money should be used elsewhere. We all do this and that’s OK. However, try to focus on being kind to yourself this Valentines Day. This might be especially helpful to those who aren’t in a relationship which always makes us dread that day because you see all these couple around you so in love. Another option is to put all your responsibilities on the back burner for a few hours or even a few days, if possible, and go do something you love or perhaps something you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe its something that makes you happy or it relaxes you. This could be anything from working on your favorite hobby, visiting with friends, or even going somewhere you’ve always wanted to go but didn’t have anyone to go with you. Make the decision to go by yourself to perhaps a local museum, tourist attraction, or even a movie. Embrace the power of doing something alone that you wouldn’t normally do.
If nothing comes to mind right now, don’t worry… Perhaps you might pray about it or just verbally put out into the world “I will find a way to treat myself this Valentines Day”. Perhaps you need to go shopping! Lol. At some point, something will present itself and you will know this is what you want. You deserve this so treat yourself!
The reason I’m doing this challenge is because I’ve found that women tend to find theirselves in a caregiver role for those we love. This often means we end up putting our wants and needs on the back burner over and over again. This is especially true once you are in a long term relationship/get married and/or have kids. We spend our time, money and care on others which we are happy to do but so often we forget to care for ourselves. If you don’t put yourself first sometimes, resentment will start building and can damage your relationships. Plus , if you don’t love yourself or feel worthy, then it makes it hard to let others love you. While this won’t solve everyone’s issues, it is a baby step to get you back on the right track and helps build the momentum if you are in a dark place. It’s not about how much money you spend or time you invest. What’s important is to not feel guilty about doing something just for you. You deserve it! Enjoy!
Now make sure your partner doesn’t think that means he/she/they don’t need to buy you something or take you out. You want to make sure that Valentines Day is all about your partner. You can do this anything before or after Valentines Day. In some cases, you might even challenge your partner to do the same.
If you agree to take on this challenge, then make the commitment in the comments. Think it would be interesting to hear back as to everyone showed themselves self love. Good luck and enjoy!