Im not denying that its true, but I don’t think it applies to all men. The issue is that the statement is based on absolutes and not in the actual nuances that happen. Some men are just crappy people. A lot lack any self awareness and think everyone including their dream woman will accept them for who they are. They can have the most amazing woman in front of them but treat her like crap. They get insecure thinking they can’t actually be with her, so they lash out by mistreating her.
But also what does that tell the woman who got mistreated? that it was okay to mistreat her because she didn’t measure up enough for him? Why is her worth based on how men treat her? no matter what, even she wasn’t the one, she was at least deserving of respect from him.
What a man considers his dream woman can change over time, and if you’re no longer his dream woman, what happens then? Why be with a guy who is going to mistreat you because his standards are unrealistic? That’s something he needs to work on, not you.
So while this statement does have truth to it, we cannot use it as an excuse to tolerate mistreatment. We are always going to deal with men who don’t see us as enough, but that still does not mean we should tolerate abuse from them and blame ourselves for not being the dream woman they wanted.