It’s a story you hear so often. I cringe at myself writing this. But men… Some of them make it impossible to live. I was just eating my food outside at a table and a man comes by asking me: where do I live? Can he buy me a drink? Which ethnicity do I have? What do I do for a living? He wasn’t mean or pushy but I was also not in the mood of talking. So I gave one-word answers trying to ignore him without embarrassing him. So then he asked me if I have Instagram. I said I do. He wanted to have it. I said I don’t want to share it. He asked why. I said I don’t want to. He asked five more times. Eventually I didn’t enjoy my food anymore and while my seat was super comfortable I just chose to relocate myself and said I am going home.
On my way home another man approaches me, shouts “Hey!!”. I’m far away from him, he sounds casual. I shout hey back because ignoring him is mean and I want to avoid him following me. I wink, he winks. He asks “can I eat your food”. I shout (still walking) “no I’m hungry”. I keep walking , I feel his eyes on my back. Before turning into the street I live in, I turn around, we wink. Thank god. He didn’t follow me. I get home.
I cannot even grab food and eat somewhere in silence and walk home. Wearing a hoodie and wide jeans. The first one even asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said I have no interest. We both laughed. It’s ok to approach women. It’s ok to ask for their number/social media. But you HAVE to accept a no. It’s not a yes from me this time, but keep approaching women and one day one woman will say yes. But it’s not me. And stop asking if I have a boyfriend or not. And accept a no as a no. And ask me if it’s okay to interrupt me and start a conversation even if I am alone.