I’ve been really curious how many other women/humans who have masogonistic father’s maintain a healthy relationship with them. Or maybe, the question really is that even possible?
My Dad has made shitty comments to me throughout my life. Everything from weird comments about my body to not cleaning up after himself because that was “woman’s work”. He’s a bully and he’s made me feel uncomfortable my entire life. As a child my mom was constantly angry and on him to help and clean and he never did. He still doesn’t. I doubt he can even run the washing machine. He always put himself before his family. He worked but my Mom was the “breadwinner”, and did all the housework, took us to every doctor appointment, ect.
He’s never touched me as far as I can remember, but he’s crossed the line more than once. Nothing that constitutes ending communication though.
He’s getting old. He still pisses me off. He still ignores me and purposely triggers me. I avoid seeing him because I’ve been dealing with my own mental health issues and he honestly makes my symptoms so much worse. I am in therapy but we haven’t gotten to my Dad yet.
There’s of course more but, I think this is enough for a general understanding. I have other friends with asshole dad’s. Some of which don’t speak to them at all. I don’t want that but he’s also not going to change, so I have to figure out how to deal with him. We do connect on a couple things which I’ve tried to keep healthy between us. But he still triggers me so it’s been rough.
Curious to hear how others who also have masogonistic bully’s as father’s deal with it.