Been thinking about this a lot lately, and I’ve had a lot of debates about gender roles and sexism with many men. One of the biggest things I notice is that men complain about things they DONT receive or treatment they DONT get, but women are bothered by the treatment we DO get in regards to gender.
For example, men say that women have privileges because we can get into bars for free, can marry rich, have easy access to sex, can get custody of kids more often (despite this being mostly due to the fact that in the majority of cases men don’t fight for sole custody), etc. Women’s issues are usually in regards to unfair treatment we receive. The vast majority of the time the same reasons we “can get things men can’t” is due to our sexist culture. It’s not a benefit, it’s another reminder that we are seen as objects. We get into bars because men are more likely to spend money in a bar with women trying to get laid. We get free drinks, again, because men are trying to get laid. We get sex easily because so many men see us as a sexual object and will fuck anything with a heartbeat. We get custody more often because most of the time it’s settled out of court and men don’t even fight for sole custody. It’s societally accepted for a man to not take responsibility for his children but for a mother to do the same would be viewed as disgusting.
Women are bothered by things we’re subjected to. Actual dangerous demeaning violent problems. Men are bothered by trivial things they see as privileges they don’t receive when in reality these “privileges” are really just misogynistic byproducts of a society that men created. Women’s conversions regarding sexism are usually in regards to SA, abortion, workplace harassment, the red pill movement pushing the dehumanization of women, the insanely low rate of convicted rapists, the amount of violent offenders who get off with barely a slap on the wrist, the fact that if we got for a walk at night and get raped we will be blamed because “it isn’t our fault but it’s our responsibility.” Everything is always our responsibility. It’s our responsibility to protect ourselves, but it’s never men’s responsibility to comment when another man does or says something sexist. Sometimes being a women is feeling like a mouse in a snake’s cage. Like the world is built to accommodate men by allowing them skate by while women pick up the slack.
I see so many women doing the house work, raising children and working while their partner sits by in mediocrity and STILL he will believe he’s superior. Because he has a penis. Because he’s “stronger physically” despite this being a virtually useless skill in todays society. Simply because he’s a man. I see so many men in positions of power especially politically who are already proven to be pedophiles, but somehow never get convicted. I see so many football players who beat the shit out of their partners and everyone still cheers their name.
But yeah, the free drinks while old men stare at my ass makes to all worth it. 🙄