I’m not sure what I’m looking for and I don’t even know if this the right place for this kind of post.
We are both autistic so communicating with each other isn’t always easy and my partner is non-binary, however they are mostly masculine aligned and have grown up being socialized as a boy/man. They are pretty passionate about mens issues, mostly about mental health as they struggle with that themselves.
We talk a lot about different societal issues, and for the most part we agree or can at least respect each others opinions, but whenever we end up talking about gender i never feel like they try to understand what I mean by women have it harder than men in most circumstances. Obviously I understand that women have it easier in, say for example, custody battles, but I think being a women comes with a lot of hardships that men don’t understand.
I feel belittled when they don’t agree with me on some things. Like one example being it’s hard for men to always be expected to be the leader (especially because they’re tall and don’t like that kind of pressure), but I find it’s more hard to never be able to be the leader. Never being allowed to be the leader because you’re underestimated and told you’re being bossy.
I know trying to play the oppression olympics is silly and both men and women have hardships, but I feel like they don’t take me seriously when I try to explain how hard it is being a women.