I have been feeling for quiet some time my best friend is jealous of me. We were friends when we were younger reconnected a couple years ago. Well now being friends with her as an adult I’ve been getting jealously vibes from her I never saw when we were younger. She’s a lesbian and she also looks like a lesbian. I’m not saying that to be insulting she just very obviously looks like she’s not into men. So she doesn’t get hit on by men at all and she’s not femme presenting but not the stud type either. I started to notice though that she seems to be jealous when men hit on me which happens semi often when we go out for drinks. This surprises me because I would have thought since she’s a lesbian me getting hit on more by men wouldn’t bother her but it seems to. I also can’t seem to talk to her about any guy I’m dating or talking to or that asked me out because she acts really weird about it to the point where I don’t even talk about it anymore and It feel it’s unfair because I listen to the girls she’s interested in or talking to. She always seems to find a way to shit on any guy that has hit on me as well.
I have also started to notice that I can’t really talk about creepy/weird or annoying men that have hit on me or were interested in me. I know it sounds crazy but I think it bothers her that she can’t relate. I feel like she sees it as her not being desirable or pretty enough. Idk what to do with this situation tbh. I know if I express my concerns of her jealousy it will make her really mad and she will just deny it but I feel like her jealously has grown very obvious over time.
I’m my most honest opinion. I was kind of ugly when we were teens so there wasn’t much to be jealous of but I had a pretty big glow up and I think the attention I get now changed the dynamics of our friendship and makes her feel insecure.
Is this friendship even worth saving? Can anyone relate?