Hello,
I am struggeling a lot with something I have been thinking for a while now. I am currently dating a guy (we have been dating for a few weeks now) and he has indicated that he would want to take things a bit further and that he is interested in dating more and getting a bit more serious. So far nothing has happened between us, but mostly because I do not feel it and I do not feel comfortable for intimacy yet.
He is a very nice guy, he is attractive and we share interests and also have the same views politically. So all in all it would be a very good match. But I really dont feel anything towards him in any romantic or sexual way.
But I am wondering if I am just expecting to much. I have never been (happily) in love, all my expierences with love were always unrequited and so I never experienced love. I keep questing myself wether these big feelings of butterflies and attraction that is always described when falling in love is just not happening for me and that I should stop waiting for these “big emotions” and just accept what I have. And now there is this guy who for the first time shows interest in me and is willing to try things with me and I think maybe I should just accept it and hope that it develops into something more.
I am afraid that I am waiting for something very unrealistic and that I waste realistic options that I encounter by holding onto a fantasy.
I dont know what to do at the moment, because we have been dating for a while now and there is no “decision” from me and I dont want to drag him along anymore.
Do you have any opinions or advice for me?