I was looking for the best rated condoms for sensitive skin and came across an article written by a woman that starts
“So, you’re on the hunt for the best condoms. They’re not usually synonymous with great sex – safe, sure, but not mind-blowing – as, for many, using them can lead to numbness or lack of feeling down there. So, yeah, not what you want mid-sex session.”
I feel really annoyed that the writer has basically just put out there what many men already try to use as an excuse to not wear one – that they lead to basically crappy sex.
Yes they can cause numbness on both sides if they’re Ill fitting but instead of just saying they’re not synonymous with great sex, change that attitude and dive in with how both parties can use them properly in order to have great sex. We all know the whole sex feels rubbish with a condom on is a myth that can be used by some (not all) men to avoid using them and I feel that this coming from a woman could be so damaging in leading men to say well look even she says it’s rubbish with them.
The article does eventually redeem itself and goes on to then interview a sex expert who then explains the best way to find a great condom and how they can even enhance play.
However, I just feel the initial author has been really irresponsible towards females who are genuinely trying to protect themselves. I felt super deflated instantly like oh great so me protecting myself is going to mean rubbish sex.
Maybe it’s me being over sensitive but I’m so used to seeing these crap excuses being pulled by men I think I was just a bit shocked to see that sort of reaction towards sex safe in a woman’s magazine.
*side note this is not me bashing men as my own partner is super respectful about protection but I know lots aren’t.