Girls around the world I’m begging for relationship advice asap. Alright to sum up the story I met a girl in June and we’ve been hanging out ever since. I noticed she wanted to start a relationship right away but I’m not interested at the moment. It’s not that I want to see multiple women at the time, it’s more like I’m a busy guy and girlfriends need a lot of time and attention I’m not able to give at the moment. So the problem is that she has expressed multiple times that she is in love with me but I just don’t feel that way (I’m mean I like her but I don’t feel the way people describe when they are in love). In fact she thinks and says I’m currently her formal boyfriend. To get even worst she is now hospitalised due to internal bleeding (previous surgery complications) and doctors say her life was at great risk. She’s someone I appreciate so clearly I showed interest and I tried to comfort her and take care of her as much as I could (I’m not a jerk). But I feel like when I tell her how I feel she’s going to be demolished (ofc I won’t say anything until she has healed completely). So the big question is: should I begin to act more distant and cold progressively or should I be a nice guy till we have the conversation where I express everything and how I feel??? What would be less painful for a woman? Sudden plot twist or progressive jerk-ification? (Also if you have any other suggestions let me know). I just don’t want to hurt her too bad. On top of that she has recently joined my work environment so I see her around from time to time in circumstances not related to our relationship. This means it is a must that when things come to an end people around don’t think I’m a terrible person.
Also, if you want to know more details on the cited case please let me know. I’ll be more than happy to extend you’re knowledge on the situation if you are willing to help.