Redditors with BED, what do you do to survive the holidays?

I don’t have BED but my mom does. Something that helps her during holidays is having a safe person, which is me in her case. Just someone knowing what’s going on. She can come to me in private to ask for things like, hey can we switch seats so I’m not sitting right next to the desserts. Or can you sit here next to me so you can take this food away when I’ve had enough, so you can help change the conversation if it lands on a triggering food, etc.