In other people? The willingness to put aside your moral values during a crisis, or when you hate someone. If you’re willing to use me as your emotional punching bag when you’re in a crisis or a breakdown, I can sympathize with the pain but I don’t want you near me.
The same goes for if you’re willing to say things you normally never would, just because you hate someone. Some people are very willing to justify being hurtful when they don’t like someone— whether that be casual bigotry, purposefully poking at someone’s insecurities or panic attack triggers, insulting someone’s weight or appearance or body hair, that sort of thing. Some people (and I’ve dated them) will go against their stated morals when they hate someone, and will justify it to themselves and others when they’re called out. Not welcome around me. No thank you.