On our first date, we talked about her family being loving and supportive, and how much she values them. Her friends are all wonderful people who live their lives authentically and support her and one another. She genuinely cares about people and wants to spend her career doing so, while also caring for her children and dogs. She thought I was cool, smart, and hot, and she actually listened to what I had to say. I’d been on maybe fifty first dates in the last decade, and I’d never met anyone as happy, open, and comforting as she was. When she kissed me at the end of our first date, I knew I was falling down a rabbit hole I couldn’t climb out of.