What are examples of controlling behaviors from a spouse that might appear innocent, but are red flags?

Anything you don’t like, and that’s totally up to you. I always used stereotypical bachelors as an example. It’s not that male bachelors expect women to do the housework; they just don’t give a shit about the housework, or they would have done it regardless of the presence of a woman. The woman cares about housework, which is why she expects men to do it.

The more dangerous example is actually personally being involved in political affairs as a man. No intelligent, decent, influential man on the planet wants a woman who is going to scream about dumb shit when he is trying to close a multi-million dollar deal that affects millions of people and prevents war.