My wife and I are having a lively debate, please help us by answering the question “what does it mean to be masculine”?

To wear men’s pants. It doesn’t mean anything anymore, we’re past the point of segmenting tasks. People don’t need to hunt or gather anymore, we don’t have an economy that enables single earner households, we don’t need specified gender roles. Masculinity hasn’t just begun to shift away from “gruff, rugged stoicism”, it needed to, because that gruff, rugged stoicism was actually emotional blunting and repression all along.