Before I go on I am in no way shaming any woman who looks like a model or influencer. If looking like they gives them confidence, that’s great and they should continue doing what they do. They’re not ugly. This is more aimed at the hypocrisy towards men. This is also coming from the point of someone who doesn’t look like an influencer and had guy flat out lie that they found them attractive.
I say this because a lot of men will say how they want women who are “natural” but will go for women who have that look. I understand that personality should matter more and if a woman with that look has a better personality than an average woman he is in his right to chose the model looking woman.
It’s also upsetting when men treat women who have that look better than women who don’t. I’m in no way less valuable because I don’t look like an influencer. I can still bring value to a man’s life. Also I’m in therapy to deal with these issues from the last guy who hurt me.
I’m not blaming the women who have that look either, they did nothing wrong. I’m more upset at how hypocritical some men can be. The last guy used me to cheat on his girlfriend, who actually happened to have a facial deformity. I wondered if I looked like a model would he leave me for her, and if he would’ve cheated on her if she looked different. I’ve became wiser now, and realize his cheating had nothing to do with looks.
Like I deserve to feel beautiful too. I shouldn’t have to get surgery and wear makeup to be considered beautiful. I believe there’s beauty in all of us. I also don’t like how plastic surgery is paraded as a solution to insecurities, because many times it isn’t. While there are people who felt better after surgery, that’s not true for everyone.