Before separating, my husband told me his ex girlfriend, Heather was ruining his life with messages through his Facebook instant messenger. He was upset and told me that she threw a plate at his head in anger during a past fight, before he met me. He said she would still contact him and bully him over shared debt for a new car they purchased years before he met me. My husband would disappear after having emotional breakdowns over this ex of his. He and I had our own share of unresolved issues, surrounding our children, but his ex would do something that would cause him to leave our residence and not return for days.