How often do men assume you want something fixed when really you wanted someone to listen?

As a hetero-male, it took me awhile to realize I should never offer women advise on how to fix a problem they’re explaining/venting to me about unless they *very specifically* ask me for a solution.

So far this pattern has held up perfectly because those same women come to talk to me about problems more & more often as they observe that I’ll never say anything back other than “wow, that sounds difficult.” ….or “that’s so unfair to you” ….or “you deserve better”.

That might not be what I actually think, but what I think doesn’t matter.