People with BPD, what is the best way your partner can calm you down during a fight or disagreement? Or how can your partner keep their composure?

If I feel it rising, I’m going to walk away. Let me walk away. Don’t follow me, don’t stop me from leaving.

If you wanna hang around me while I’m that’s irrational, don’t argue with me. I’m not listening and am looking for a reason to lash out. Commiserate with me, or distract me with something else. Just don’t argue and accuse.

Or dont do any of these things and dig your heels in. It’ll be the borderline individuals fault either way.